Last night I had the opportunity to push the boundaries of my comfort zone.
A woman that I know through church called us yesterday and invited us to come over to her house for dinner. Being a large family with rambunctious children, and knowing that several people perceive some of our kids as troublemakers, I was taken by surprise by the invitation and was too flustered to refuse.
The poor woman didn't really know what she was getting herself into. She just knew me, knew of my husband and that he had served a mission in Korea, and knew my oldest son. She was a bit surprised when I mentioned that I had six children and was she sure about inviting us. She sweetly responded that it would be fine, even after I mentioned that some of our children have Autism. We arranged to be at her house around 6 p.m.
I am not much of a social person. Social situations are out of my comfort zone, and even though I usually end up talking a lot (sometimes to the point of babbling) I almost always feel foolish afterwards. I made a fruit salad and we bought a macaroni salad as sides for the dinner. When we got there, Sister T (we call each other brother and sister in our church, so I will refer to our hosts as Brother and Sister T for this post) had plastic leis, Hawaiian straw hats, ribbon and candy ready. She had the boys tie candy onto their hats and leis to keep them busy. After a short time the missionaries and another brother from our church arrived to join us for dinner. Now, let me see if I can remember everything we had! Sister T had told me it would be a luau type of party with an Asian fusion theme for the food. She offered:
Rice
Curry
Shrimp with sauce
Pot stickers
Egg rolls
pan fried balls of shrimp
Octopus (I can't remember what they called it exactly, but it was steamed octopus in a sauce)
Two kinds of Kimchee
Korean radish
Honeydew melon
Pineapple
Kalua pork (cooked in banana leaves)
Steak
Kalbi (Korean style ribs)
Kim (toasted seaweed)
Steamer Clams
Traditional Hawaiian rolls cooked in coconut milk
Poki (this dish involves raw tuna in a sauce)
Two kinds of sushi, one made with Lox (smoked salmon) and one made with raw tuna.
We also drank a Korean juice drink called Sac Sac which is basically grape juice with sugar, and whole pieces of grape mixed in the drink. All that plus my fruit salad and Macaroni salad and that was a lot of food for a total of 11 people!
The food was the second part of me getting out of my comfort zone. We eat some kinds of Korean food here because D loves it from when he served his mission. We regularly eat the Korean brand of curry, we eat kimchee and we make Kim Bap (which is similar to sushi but doesn't involve raw fish) a couple times a year. The menu items in this case that were out of my comfort zone were the two kinds of sushi, the raw tuna, and the octopus. I have never eaten sushi other than the Korean kind we make that has ham, Korean radish, spinach, egg and carrot in it. Sister T used to own a sushi bar, and she made the sushi fresh that evening. I tried both kinds, and even had seconds of both. I will say that I didn't love it, but I liked it. I also tried a small piece of octopus which I didn't like much. Octopus is very chewy, and I am big on texture. I wasn't brave enough to try the poki, because I was afraid enough to eat raw fish when it was mixed into a sushi roll of rice and seaweed. All in all, we had a great dinner, I got a couple of new recipes, and Brother and Sister T sent us home with enough leftovers to set us up for dinner tonight, as well as two pies!
After dinner they made us Hawaiian shave ice. They started out with vanilla ice cream at the bottom of the cups, then put shave ice and syrup over the top. The boys each had two helpings and loved it. After that there was no more room for the other desserts so she sent the pies and cookies home with us. The boys had fun making their candy leis and decorating their hats, and for the most part they behaved very well. Maybe I don't have to be quite so scared of being social! (Really though, I don't see me ever being very comfortable with it.)
Sister T was a great hostess, did a ton of work and was accepting of our kids. It was a good experience for the boys and we were able to praise them for doing so well.
My question for you...do you like to socialize? And what do you think of Sushi?